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Heidi's avatar

* or share this coping mechanism

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Heidi's avatar

There may be another similarity....not so much in silent treatment but rather how a person may self reflect, strategize, you know, think about situations, what to do about them, whether it’s positive or negative, how to turn things around, sometimes I wonder if that’s what we do during some part of what is seen a silent treatment. I know men take that time to mentally go over things. I wonder if your dad was so angry at times he couldn’t really speak and didn’t want to deal with anybody for a while and then maybe some of it was just trying to figure out what went wrong and how to control his own emotions or actions. Sometimes I get so worked up that I just get quiet because I don’t want to yell at anybody, and it ends up being me just thinking about my own issues.  I also wonder with my own father, if military men might have similar issues.

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Stephanie Jucar Cooley's avatar

Yes, I often wondered what went on in my dad’s head. I think it’s the generation, being a man in the military, the cultural difference, and how he was raised too.

My dad was different than just being quiet , it truly was days and weeks of silent treatment. I don’t blame him anymore for it. Being an immigrant father trying to adjust to an American way of life is a shock. Just bring a parent overall is hard!

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JS's avatar

As the kids say these days, “I’m not crying, you’re crying!” I loved this so much, Steph. Thanks for writing it.

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Stephanie Jucar Cooley's avatar

❤️❤️❤️

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Krista's avatar

I love this!

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Jackie 〰️'s avatar

Absolutely loved this❤️

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Stephanie Jucar Cooley's avatar

Thank you Jackie! I’m so glad you came here to read it.

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Stephanie Jucar Cooley's avatar

Hiii! Thank you for reading!

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JB's avatar

I hope my daughter marries a better man than me.

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